Fortune cookie Thursday: Seek out the significance of your problem at this time. Try to understand.
I think I’m getting that batch of darker more realistic fortunes. Hmm. But it does go well with today’s topic!
What I’m listening to:Hey there Delilah, The Plain White T’s
I was thinking about it today. It was shortly after I encouraged a friend who was about to send out a submission. I had such high hopes and confidence in her. I’m like that with so many people. The constant cheerleader, the encourager, but oddly…not with myself. I realized this and was somewhat appalled when I really thought about it.
The things I say to myself in my head–I’d NEVER say to a friend. OMG if I said this stuff to a critique partner they’d probably quit on the spot or tell me to go f*ck myself. And yet I say this terrible stuff to myself quite regularly. I used to sum it up to me ‘being a realist’, but now I think I’m just being a little too negative. And if I believe that stuff in The Secret, then my self negativity is breeding negative results according to the law of attraction.
So there ya have it, folks. My new goal. I’m not going to say anything to myself about me and my writing that I wouldn’t say to someone else. I need to step up the cheerleading for myself. Because, darn it, I’m worth it. (Gahd, how motivational self esteem boosting was that?!)
So is anyone else like me? Or are you the queen of positive thinking?
You are a realist Shell but you also don’t realize how incredibly talented you are. *hugs* I wouldn’t know half of what I know if it wasn’t for you. Also you helped me be a realist and while I’d rather dream the day away about a 18 figure book deal (yes 18, if you are going to dream why dream small) I would never get anything done if you hadnt helped me find a balance.
18 figure book deal? My gawd Emma! LOL
Ah yeah we all go through the down in the dumps times or the, “OMG I will never write as good as *blank*.” It’s tough. I’m not Ms Ultra Positive Thinking but I also don’t beat myself up EVERY day. Just every OTHER day. LMAO
Chin up sister cos you RAWK.
Someone told me once that you couldn’t love someone fully until you loved yourself. I guess it’s kind of the reverse of treat others like you wish to be treated. Be nice to Shelli, she’s a really great gal!
I’m with you Shelli. Though, I have been working on it lately. I read The Secret over Christmas, and am trying to put it into practise. It’s hard though. Beating yourself up can be a hard habit to break.
Yeah. What’s up with that? I do the same thing to myself. I’d never be as mean to anyone, even a perfect stranger and besides Jada, I should love myself more than anyone. I try to tell myself that I’m a better mom and nurse if I take care of myself and love myself, but it is hard. I told you about the jeans and how I was happy for about 5 minutes that they fit and the next few minutes later, I was thinking to myself what a fat ass I have and how the jeans look like shit on me despite that fact that they haven’t fit me in years. How terrible am I? Positive self talk is really something we all probably need assistance with :o)